Acceptance and Healing Chronic Illness


Today at age 38, Samantha has been chronically sick for the past 12 years. As a teenager Samantha

frequently missed school and as she entered the work force she consistently experienced generalized

muscle pain, insomnia and fatigue. Extended illness interfered with her family life and her studies to

complete her degree.

At age 32, Samantha received a diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome. Initially the diagnosis gave

Samantha some relief as she reported that it finally gave her something that she could identify with. She

had spent years seeking assistance with her health, only to discover that there wasn’t anything “wrong”

with her. She admits that it provided some peace, knowing that there was a “label” for what she was


Despite the initial relief that Samantha got from the diagnosis, she denied that she had a chronic illness and

she was reluctant to look at the source of her illness and why she continued to struggle with her health.

Samantha reported that she felt that accepting her illness was an admission of failure. Samantha wanted a

short cut. Today Samantha now believes that denying she was sick kept her from taking the steps she

needed to get well.

When a person’s life has taken a detour in health there is always a source. It is my experience that a person

can resolve a headache or migraine in one session; however, it doesn’t mean that the source of why the

headaches recur again and again has been addressed. While I am not denying that some people can have

great results in a short period of time, and can get to the solution within a few sessions, many chronic

health conditions have persisted for years, with habitual patterns and belief systems in place.

It is also my experience that many people with chronic health conditions can lead “normal” lives.

Acceptance of an illness is not an admission of failure, nor does it mean giving up. Acceptance means

welcoming change. It may mean a change in your everyday routines; however, it doesn’t mean that you

have to stop doing what you did before. It might require adaptation of the current way that you do things.

When you struggle with chronic illness, symptoms can flare up without warning, creating a feeling of

helplessness, victimization and suffering. Returning to the present and realizing that each day will be

different is important.

Through regular Biofeedback training with NeuroCARE Pro ®, education, counselling and somatic

bodywork Samantha has learned to bring balance back into her life. She is sleeping better, experiences less

pain and fatigue, copes well with stress and she enjoys life more fully. Author Dr. Bruce Lipton states that

knowledge of “self,” is the key to our survival. My mentor Dr. Valdeane Brown, developer of the

biofeedback software system NeuroCARE Pro, states that “NCP is an existential mirror — it directly

presents us with our own self and how we co-create our suffering. In short, one is thereby presented with an

existential choice — continue to re-create the suffering or not”.

When I initially suggested to Samantha that she surrender to her pain, she reported that she thought I meant

that she had to give up. Today Samantha states “Acceptance doesn’t mean that you are giving up; it means

that you are moving forward”.

Penny Hyndman is trained in; Neurofeedback by Zengar Institute in Victoria B.C; CranioSacral Therapy

with the Upledger Institute; and Reflexology with the Pacific Institute of Reflexology. Penny is a graduate

of the Vancouver General Hospital School of Nursing and has over 15 years experience in BC’s Health

Care System. For more information she can be reached at in New Westminster, 604-831-1330.

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